“Being abused and beaten by my husband was a daily routine since the day I got married; but then I found Haguruka, where I got all the help, I needed to overcome that hellish situation”. Donatille Said. Nowadays, in most African countries, women are still seen as childcarers, housewives, home-keepers and devoted wives.
GAHONGAYIRE Mediatrice,” before this program “I was a girl with no self-confident and respect. I used to take and use some of the drugs which led me to bad behavior. I always had a conflict with my family because I did not like school and had no clear vision for my future. Basically, during the discussion, I have come to know and realize what people call gender equality and learnt about building a bright future and this had led me to figure out how
Nsengiyumva Innocent and Manirakiza Agnes live together for 12years and have3 of children. They had a conflict based on land and control over the harvest. Sengiyumva used to beat his wife Manirakiza if she says anything about her rights to the harvest. The couple attended the community dialogues. When Manirakiza was beaten up she was told to hide the physical rushes or say that she felt down. This couple was among the couples who were chosen
Legal aid and representation can be difficult enough to obtain, even in the best circumstances. Finding someone to advocate for you, even when law is on your side, is not a reality for most of the world’s population. In hopes of finding her own advocate, Nyiranduhura zilipa walked for four hours every day from her house to Haguruka’s center in Musanze, Northern Province.
She met a lawyer of Haguruka and she told her everything. After30 years of marriage, her husband brought another wife
The woman in this article (nicknamed Sarah) was married for many years but was unable to have children. Sarah consulted a witch, who told her that she would get pregnant if her younger sister who was still a virgin was raped by the woman’s husband One day, the sister (nicknamed Maria) came to visit the married couple and they locked her in the house She was raped every day by the husband of her own older sister for over three weeks
In the Rwandese society a couple has to get married in three different places; the government wedding, the dowry and in the church. In that same order, people live together after the church wedding. For this couple, they were only married in the government. Before dowry and church wedding, the boy left the girl pregnant of one month. Nyiranizeyimana Alphonsine explained it in this way:
We went in to sign together and we agreed on sharing our legacy.
The man in this story (nicknamed Charles) had been imprisoned for a long period without trial, and had been accused of defilement. Instead of being tried in the place where the alleged crime was committed, Kayove (so people could testify about the offense) he was tried in the former Nyamyumba District He was sentenced him to 25 years of imprisonment, and given a fine equal to RF 2,500,000.
A member of Haguruka met Charles’ wife
This woman separated with her husband in 1997 due to a very severe injury she suffered caused by her husband. She ran away and returned to her parents. But her mother could not let her come back home because of what the Son in-law had done.
Veronica (nickname) is a widow with 4 children. When she lost her husband in 1993, she moved back to her parent’s house. She lived with her step mother because her father had also died. Right before he died, the father stated that Veronica and all her siblings should have an equal share