Their story is one of many among the 120 couples who participated in the couples’ dialogue sessions in 2024; some pledged to live peacefully, while others chose to legalize their marriages.
My name is Twahirwa Issa, and my wife is Kuradusenge Joseline. We live in Muhoza Sector, Kigombe Cell. When we first joined the couples’ dialogue sessions, we were among the most conflicted participants. I often attended while intoxicated, displaying anger and even insulting the facilitators. At times, we seriously considered not returning. Our conflicts stemmed from economic struggles and physical violence. As former military personnel, I struggled with trauma after demobilization. Losing my job left me frustrated and hopeless, which led to physical abuse of Joseline, especially when she asked for money while I spent our limited earnings on alcohol. Everything began to change after we committed to the couples’ dialogue sessions organized by Haguruka.
Over 12 consistent sessions focused on gender equality, GBV prevention, and family cohesion, the facilitators provided close guidance and regular follow-ups, visiting us multiple times at home. Their patience and support helped me confront my trauma and understand the impact of my actions.
Gradually, I decided to change. I found work at a car wash and took full responsibility for supporting my family. Joseline and I learned to communicate better, resolve conflicts peacefully, and rebuild trust. By the end of the program, we had transformed into a model couple and proudly shared our testimony on graduation day.